Are you more of a “work to live” or a “live to work” type of person?

(It’s a question featured in this Women’s Health story.)

I definitely used to be a “live to work” type of person. For most of my adult life, I’ve always spent well beyond 40 hours a week working, whether it was juggling a couple of different jobs or putting in way too many hours at my former newspaper home. It’s not just that I needed the money — I have always loved feeling useful and productive. I enjoy stepping back and admiring the thing I put my time and energy into and seeing it shaped by my skill.

Journalism isn’t art, but the sentiment is still there. Whenever I tackle a story, I always feel like I’m putting together a puzzle. During the process, I can’t wait to see what the final picture looks like.

Since I became a mother though, I now “work to live.” I still enjoy my work life. I still step back and admire the things I put my time and energy into. I still love doing my metaphorical puzzles. But if I could, I’d take more days off just to be with my kid. I’d pack her up in the car with her coloring books and we’d drive to the beach. We’d eat ice cream, chase the seagulls, and laugh. Oh, we’d laugh so much together.

Tybee Island, GA | 2018

Tybee Island, GA | 2018

This is what my success looks like nowadays

It's been seven days since I wrote a story, thanks to a last-minute decision to take my kid to the beach for the first time in her life during the holiday. I'm still smiling over the look of utter joy as she pranced in the water, kicking at the waves as they crashed into her small frame. I want to laugh out loud as I think about how she lost not one but two toy shovels, and then subsequently took to throwing her last one into the water just so she (that is, I) could chase it as the water moved it up and down the shore. 

But it's been seven days since I wrote a story, which means it's been seven days since I did "work" to get paid. I guess the short getaway did me good because I'm actually not freaking out too much about that. The work will come.

100 Words: The horror of 'tender age shelters'

Welcome to my 100 Words series, in which I'll share some commentary in, you guessed it, 100 words or less.

Here are some words that never should be stringed together: "tender age shelters." And yet, the country has at least three of them in Texas for housing migrant children ages five and under who were forcibly taken from their families seeking asylum in the U.S. “Toddlers are being detained,” one advocate said.

I have a lot of feelings about this latest report because I’m a mom. But sadness isn’t enough to compel action. Let me leave you with this: The nonprofit operating some of these child shelters will get more than $458 million this year from the Trump administration.

100 Words: The desperation of migrant children

 Welcome to my 100 Words series, in which I'll share some commentary in, you guessed it, 100 words or less.

Most of the news cycle today was dominated by the newly enforced “zero tolerance” immigration policy that has ripped migrant children away from their families. It’s heartbreaking and outrageous. One article in particular was powerful: Propublica obtained an audio recording from inside a detention facility, revealing the “desperate sobbing of 10 Central American children separated from their parents” last week.

I won’t listen to the clip; my heart can’t take it. It broke me when my two-year-old daughter used to wail big sloppy sobs whenever she lost sight of me. I can’t imagine the trauma these small humans are enduring—needlessly.

100 Words: The Parkland school security officer is trash

Welcome to my 100 Words series, in which I'll share some commentary in, you guessed it, 100 words or less.

This is infuriating. Yesterday, the Sun-Sentinel reported that the security officer who neglected to protect students during a school shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in February was lightly disciplined last year for allegedly sexually harassing two female students, including Meadow Pollack, a victim in the massacre.

"What's killing me,” her father told Buzzfeed News, “is that he should have been terminated and he wasn't and he was at that gate.”

This is the world we live in: When the #metoo movement and the public health crisis of gun violence collide in the most heartbreaking way. Andrew Medina is trash.

100 Words: A peek inside an immigration facility holding kids

Welcome to the first edition of my 100 Words series, in which I'll share some commentary in, you guessed it, 100 words or less.

This morning I read a Twitter thread from MSNBC correspondent Jacob Soboroff, who toured a Texas shelter for detained child migrants yesterday. Nearly 1,500 boys between the ages of 10 and 17 are housed here. “No cells and no cages, and they get to go to classes about American history and watch Moana, but they’re in custody,” Soboroff tweeted.

The thread makes me think about my boyfriend’s son: He turns 11 tomorrow. He didn’t get to choose his parents, who are both Americans. An outcome based purely on chance gave him the opportunity to take freedom completely for granted.  

A writer's life is often lonely. Thank goodness I have a Melissa.

No one tells you how lonely it can get working for yourself. Depending on whether or not I have any phone interviews scheduled, some days I don't speak to an actual adult until 8:30 at night when my guy gets home from work. (I don't count saying "hi" and "bye" to my daughter's daycare teachers.) 

That's why today I want to celebrate my former colleague Melissa Oyler.

How researching Al Gore's past sexual misconduct allegations helped motivate me to do some kick-ass writing this year

To be a freelance writer—to work for yourself and call the shots and figure out how to make enough money to put food on the table and keep your baby diapered up—you’ve got to be a really motivated person. You’ve got to have goals, and you’ve got to want to fight to make them. But this first month of this new, beautiful year, I didn’t have it in me.

How I manage all my freelance assignments and, well, life

The first step to being a successful writer is investing in a solid coffeemaker. Me? I have a Ninja Coffee Bar. I discovered it on a late-night infomercial during the early weeks of momhood, when I was delirious from being forced to join #teamnosleep. 

In recent months, I’ve come to realize how important this coffeemaker is to my writing career. Thanks to this machine, I can write anywhere from four to six stories a week — stories I’m proud of.